I don’t like this expression “First World problems.” It is false and it is condescending. Yes, Nigerians struggle with floods or infant mortality. But these same Nigerians also deal with mundane and seemingly luxurious hassles. Connectivity issues on your BlackBerry, cost of car repair, how to sync your iPad, what brand of noodles to buy: Third World problems. All the silly stuff of life doesn’t disappear just because you’re black and live in a poorer country. People in the richer nations need a more robust sense of the lives being lived in the darker nations. Here’s a First World problem: the inability to see that others are as fully complex and as keen on technology and pleasure as you are.
Teju Cole, as quoted by Alexis C. Madrigal, on why #firstworldproblems is a busted idea (x)
Putting this out here because I still run into people using this phrase and it’s busted and tired and needs to go away already. Consider this a gentle nudge/reminder for people who didn’t realize or forgot.
fucking dont give a fuck anymore.
how can you hear me when you’re too busy shouting your lungs out?
and then you wonder why i always keep quiet.
i’ve always known it, i just didnt know when.
looks like im on my own again.
So when people leave, I’ve learned the secret: let them. Because, most of the time, they have to.
Let them walk away and go places. Let them have adventures in the wild without you. Let them travel the world and explore life beyond a horizon that you exist in. And know, deep down, that heroes aren’t qualified by their capacity to stay but by their decision to return.